Last week we talked about climbing the mountain but what about that fire? Why do you always feel like you are putting out a fire? Is that part of your fight or flight response? And more importantly how do we break out of the constant crisis mode?
Why do we have a to-do list that is like a battlefield with every task screaming for immediate attention? Living in this mode is so draining…it drains our energy, steals our focus and never lets us feel like we are in control. We are stuck in a constant loop of reacting and recovering.
How do we get out of this mode? I think one of the biggest is that we let the priorities of others dictate our life. We don’t have enough respect for our own priorities and don’t set boundaries. We need to figure out our non-negotiables and sometimes say no if the ask doesn’t fit into our protected time frame. You need to prioritize yourself and your own well-being.
Another thing we do is that we over commit. Taking on too many things can create a mountain of obligations that leave us overwhelmed. We need to focus on what is truly important to us and not take on things that are not truly important to us.
Finally, is our perfectionism causing a constant fire. Yes, I am a perfectionist and sometimes feel that I have to do it because someone may not do it the same as I would. Does it really matter how it is done as long as it gets done? The answer is NO but that is not the easiest answer for our perfectionist self to hear!
Shift your thinking from reactive to proactive thinking! You don’t want your flame to burn out, but you also don’t want that full on fire to start!
